A loud round of applause for Waxman Literary's Holly Root, for writing this sensible piece demystifying the query process and telling everyone to chill out a little. Here's some pithy quotes:
If you really read and adhered to every.single.thing. every agent said online you would never finish a book or a query letter....
I have heard from so many writers who are terrified of "offending" agents or breaking some rule. Nothing about this process should be anywhere near that scary.... It's publishing -- not nuclear disarmament. I am an agent, not Emperor Palpatine.
OK, let's agree not to make her regret writing this by all querying her at once.